Where should I begin? I’ll start off by saying I’m almost sure that most who see this post won’t read it and not many will leave a comment.
When you go to a local party or get together – whether hosted by your family, neighbors, co-workers, whoever – do you say hello to the host and/or hostess? Does the host and/or hostess say hello or greet you? If you don’t go to parties but did happen to go to one, would you ignore the host? How would you feel if the host ignored you?
I guess I had the wrong idea about link parties. I thought they were to mingle as if at a real party to get to know others and their interests, to learn about new blogs, to build friendships and community. I was definitely WRONG!
When I go to link parties, I always thank the hostess for hosting. Rarely does the hostess ever come over to my blog and leave a comment for me. Ok, maybe my blog isn’t amusing or my posts don’t interest them but what about common courtesy? These same folks rarely even reply to the comment I leave for them on their own blog!
HOSTING MY OWN PARTIES
When I started hosting parties, I visited EVERY link whether the entries interested me or not, even if the blogger didn’t take the time to say hello or thank me for hosting. I also shared the entries like crazy and I left comments!! I have featured plenty of bloggers who probably never even remembered linking up at my parties. So, I no longer do so. If a guest can’t take the time to at least leave me a comment telling me their entry numbers then I don’t visit their entries to comment, nor do I promote their entries by sharing them on social media.
I have put up with bloggers who, for example, link up a recipe, shopping trip, or book review at a craft or décor party. Not only did they not say hello or thank me for hosting, they never took the time to read the simple rules for linking up. That’s called dropping a link and running. Do you think those bloggers visit other guests at the party? No, they don’t, only rarely! The guests obviously don’t realize that those of us who host the parties can see how many clicks each entry gets in the InLinkz dashboard.
PARTY HOSTS AND BLOGGING
I think many of those hosting parties lately don’t even look at their parties and don’t care who is linking up nor what they’re linking to. What has happened to blogging? Where are the budding friendships that I thought would form? Let me state here, I have met people from all over the world via blogging and there are some that I visit regularly, they visit me too, but just a few. I keep reading on this blog or that blog how link parties are going away. There is a loss of community, waning friendship between bloggers.
THE PROBLEM IS $$$
I think a BIG problem with a lot of bloggers today, and why they don’t take time to visit their party guests or even reply to a guest’s comment, is that they are trying to earn money. They’re like busy bees publishing blog posts like an assembly line. As a result, many of their sites look horrible with all the ads popping up and overlapping content. So ridiculous. Do they honestly think their sites look nice? I’m almost positive that many of them NEVER take the time to look at their sites after they hit the publish button for their latest post. If they don’t know how to fix their ugly sites then they should hire a professional to help them. I mean, I’m assuming they can afford someone with expertise since they’re making money with all those stupid ads, right? I don’t watch ads on TV so I’m not going to try to read an article or blog post with annoying ads!
Speaking of making money, I’d LOVE to know how much those horrible looking sites are making, I’m sure they’d never tell anyone. They’re hoping the BIG checks will start rolling in. They heard about so and so who makes such and such and now everyone thinks they can too! I would love to interview some of those bloggers and get them to go online and actually read one of their posts to me. How hilarious would that be? I know one thing, they couldn’t do it, it’s impossible! You have to be able to see the content before you can read it. You can’t read them on an iPhone, not an iPad, not a large screen laptop, and not even on my humongous monitor for my desktop computer!!
When you go onto some of these family friendly blog sites, you immediately get hit with ads for toenail fungus! Who wants to see that if you’re looking at a recipe? YUCK! Or how about erectile dysfunction, bladder leakage, big ole oozing pimples, or psoriasis? Hey, I’m a nurse, gross stuff doesn’t bother me but everyone isn’t a nurse. I was on a Christian site yesterday reading about Bible teachings and what pops up right in the middle between two paragraphs? An ad for an alcohol brand saying if you get drunk your ugly girlfriend won’t look ugly! I saw another one on a similar site that said to cheat on your wife, not your workout! Really? On a Christian site!! Then, what about these sites that run the same ad between paragraphs, in popups, or sidebars? Contrary to what some might think, those ads do not reflect my recent searches!
Do you have any thoughts about this post or am I alone on this one? Are you a link party guest, host, or both? Do you think guests should leave a comment for the host as well as follow the party rules? Do you think the host should reply to your comment if you leave one for them? And, last of all, do you think the host should at least visit entries and leave comments if you did so for them?
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When I first started blogging in 2012 things were much different including link parties. I did use to feel that sense of community and friendship you mentioned and hosted my own party for a few years. I agree that many people nowadays drop their links and run without reading the instructions or commenting. I admit that I’m guilty of linking the wrong post to a party when I’m trying to hurry and not paying attention to the rules but it wasn’t intentional. When I’m linking up and there are only a few posts ahead of me I try to come back and check the posts that are linked after me. With all of that said I still feel a sense of community with some of the parties I attend. I comment on their other posts also not just their link party post and they comment on mine. I follow the blogger and create a friendship that way. When I’m told I have to comment and what I have to say in my comment in order to be featured I pass on that and usually stop linking to the party altogether.
As far as ads go, I have them on my site and do not feel they are overwhelming. I preview every post before it’s published and view it after to make sure everything looks good. The way I understand it, the ads you see are based on your recent searches and the blogger doesn’t have control over that. We can only control the placement of them, not the content. I do not leave the post just because there are ads or a pop-up on the site nor do I turn off the tv when there is a commercial which is basically the same thing. Pop-ups bring new subscribers and ads bring revenue so by signing up or staying on their site I’m supporting them and their business. Isn’t that was this is about, supporting each other?
Maria, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I don’t put hard to follow rules on my parties. No linkbacks are required, no buttons are required, no social media shares are required. The only thing I do ask of guests is to tell me their link numbers if they want a chance to be featured. That’s a new thing, I didn’t always ask that of the guests. One thing I can say is I have NEVER searched for toenail fungus remedies, nor help for erectile dysfunction, bladder problems, pimples, or psoriasis. Nor have I ever searched for alcohol or gym workouts! So no, these ads I’m seeing are not based on my recent searches and I am the only one who uses my devices I access the internet with. As for ad content, you most definitely can control what ads are displayed on your site. It depends on what affiliate network you’re using.
I wasn’t singling you out a lot of parties have very specific rules about what to post and how to comment. I know that I can control where the ads are placed but I’ve never tried to pick which ads are seen. My ad company has recently made a bunch of updates and I have a call on Wednesday with my ad rep so will see if I can do that too 🙂
And thanks for all you do! I know how time-consuming link parties can be.
Yes, Maria. I see parties that say things like comment on the one or however many before your entries. I might not want to comment on the ones before me. Id rather visit the ones that interest me. And, you’re welcome, parties are time consuming.
Very insightful post! You’ve told it like it really is and hit the nail on the head for everything. I’ve been trying to improve where I’ve been lacking! I plead the fifth at the moment ~lol. As a hostess, I recently experienced my name and comment being edited to benefit their comment section and they still didn’t say thank you for a feature ~ LOL. Anyway, I’m trying to improve *my own* areas. Thanks for making us more aware of what we’re lacking.
Thanks, Allyson. Hey, where do you host, wasn’t aware. Do let me know, please 🙂
You’re welcome to share each week at the Home Matters Party Thursday (9pm est ) through Monday!
Ah yes, Allyson. I’ve bypassed that party like forever because I never thought my posts were appropriate.
hi Dee, I agree, I think leaving a thank you to the hostess is so important and I don’t stay on sights with all the pop up ads…I don’t see how those ads can possibly generate revenue when they drive viewers away! I do try to visit several other links at each party because I am genuinely interested in what their post is about. I blog to share information and ideas and find that monetized blogs are often just a advertisement for a particular product and lack any genuine feel or help. I understand the need to make money, however, you must have something valuable to sell! It’s like why would I shop at that store when they don’t offer anything good for sale!
Anyway, I appreciate everything you said!!
Thanks, Jenna. Like I said, I’d love for them to let me interview them and get them to tell us how much they make with those supposed generating revenue ads!!
I’m new to blogging (2 years), but I have seen a decline in link party etiquette in these past two years, Dee. In the beginning, I commented on 10-12 blog posts per stie I visited. There was little return on my time investment in that endeavor, so I began tracking who was commenting and who wasn’t. It quickly became clear there were two classes of bloggers, those who were in it for community and interacted, and those who were in it for money which led to linking and running. In the beginning, it was discouraging, but now I just ignore the rude people and interact with the kind people. As you mentioned, if it was a real party, I wouldn’t ignore the host, but I would ignore the rude people and not let them spoil the party for me. Thanks for all the hosting you do, Dee! And for all the comments and promotions on social media, there are many of us who appreciate you for your labor of love.
Lisa, you said it, two classes of bloggers. They don’t want to admit they link and run but they do. Most bloggers are not getting rich or even making a decent income from those ads while ignoring their visitors/readers. If they were, they’d brag about it I’m sure!!
I know what you are talking about. I like reading blogs but so many of them have those ads you’re talking about. Very discouraging and not a pleasant experience. The hosts don’t seem like they care if they visit our posts or not. How rude!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Renae. Yes, very rude indeed!
Blogs are quickly becoming like print magazines (now mostly out of business), they contain way too much advertising! Many earn a tidy sum, and many others brag about exactly how much, yet complain at the same time when a reader brings up the ads. Yes it costs money to run a blog, but honestly the way you manage your blog business is not the responsibility of the reader, just my own humble opinion.
I won’t lie, I started about 20 years ago hoping to have a side stream of income for retirement years and I never built up the views to qualify for ad revenue. But my genre is not everyone’s cup of tea. Whole wheat, scratch made food with few refined sugar recipes. And now all these years later it is OK. I use my blog as a hobby AND it keeps me accountable to me and my way of eating that helps keep me healthy. Yes I share at link parties and have made some blogger friends along the way. I thank you for your continued hosting and also for sharing this post, because I fear with too much more neglect, link.parties might just go away.
Melynda, I think a lot of bloggers have the idea that they can make some money off their blog and some do but most are not getting rich or even earning a living from those horrible ads. If they did they’d be bragging about it. Blogging is not cheap by any means but I think it’s a great, affordable hobby. Matter of fact, it probably costs less to have a decent looking blog than it does to craft. Some crafters spend a lot of money on their supplies. I recall the last magazine I subscribed to. After the subscription ended I didn’t renew as there were too many ads.
What a perfect topic, link party etiquette. I’ll say this, I agree with all you’re saying and I’d not want to meet most of these rude hosts and non-verbal guests at a real party.
Carrie, thanks. Neither would I, it wouldn’t be a very fun party.
I both host and participate in link parties and I always try to leave a comment for the hostess; even if it’s just a “thanks for hosting!” I also try to visit at least one post for every link I leave and make sure to comment and pin. I respond to all comments left on any of my posts and I have learned that I can usually click on their name and head over to their blog as well. If I can and the link isn’t broken I find something to read about and comment on their blog as well.
When I host I don’t necessarily visit EVERY post that is linked up but I do try to visit at least one post from every blogger that links up. I try to leave comments too but if I’m really pressed for time I might just pin it instead (but make sure I definitely leave a comment next time!).
I have worked hard these past few years to cultivate my own blogging community and I have regular readers that comment daily on my blog and I make sure to reciprocate that; but I honestly do feel a connection with these ladies and am interested in their lives and their content. What a fun topic to bring up!!
Thanks, Joanne. This definitely seems like a topic people want to discuss. I did a lot more with my parties in the beginning but most seemed unappreciative so now I only comment, share, and feature those who act as if they want that kind of engagement which means community and friendship.
I feel like you do. It would be funny to listen to some of them read their own blog posts. You ought to ask them to let you interview them. We could all use the entertainment.
Tammy, it would be funny for sure to listen to them stumble and stutter trying to read a complete sentence, forget about a whole paragraph or post, they couldn’t do it. That’s why I think they never look at their posts once they hit the publish button.
Oh boy. Are you trying to ruffle some feathers? I agree with you. I hate ads on websites and on tv.
Bev, not at all, just speaking the truth. Glad to see you agree.
Dee, this is so true. I always thank the host, visit many other blogs and leave comments. I read and respond to everyone who links up with Sweet Tea & Friends too. I was so happy to have found you sweet friend, and I really enjoy visiting at your place.
Paula, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Glad we found each other too!
You nailed it! Bravo!!!
Thanks, Kate. Glad you agree!
I agree that multiple pop up ads, or those placed in the middle of the test are so annoying! I want to read without distraction, so when it comes to my blog I keep my add space to the side bar a bit lower down, and at the very bottom of the page. That being said, add space is just that – space. The blogger adjusts their layout to include a spot and that spot is filled in differently for each viewer, based on their browsing history. Any adds that you see are going to relate to your (or someone who had used your browser) personal recent searches, purchases, activity, etc. If adds are popping up that you don’t like you can clear your cookies to help reset the space. Hope this helps, I love your site!
Thanks for your thoughts on this, Jennifer. Those ads and what I’m seeing do not relate to my searches. I am the only one that uses my phone, computers, and browsers. Most of those bloggers who have the annoying ads clearly do not place them and have no idea what is popping up, I doubt that they ever look at their messy sites. Clearing cookies is part of my maintenance. Thanks for loving my site ♥
Hi Dee! Well, once again, you hit the nail on the head. Link parties just don’t seem the same.
I appreciate all your work to host these parties and your desire for community. I must say, I have toned down how much I partied because I felt I didn’t have the time or energy to properly participate in them. I have just recently started participating again, but when I feel I won’t be able to join in the way I should, I don’t link up. I try to click on other posts that interest me and thank hostesses when I link up.
I rarely get any comments on the posts I link, except for you of course. As a hostess, you have always visited and shared so much. I understand your disappointment in most blog parties these days.
As for monetizing blogs, I am not against trying to earn money from your blog. Wouldn’t it be grand if we all could? But I would never try to do that at the expense of my readers. I blog as a hobby and visit others. Some blogs are so full of ads popping up that you can’t even read the posts. I’ve visited blogs that would require me X-ing out of ads multiple times before I could read the posts, posts I didn’t read for giving up. And I agree, the ads are not always on what I read or search for. I can assure you that I haven’t searched for products featured in most ads. If I couldn’t control what ads are put on my blog, I wouldn’t allow them. I am not in the business of curing toenail fungus or ED. Thanks for this post. It needed to be said out loud, a lot of us have been saying it quietly. Great post.
Thanks, Sylvia. As for guests visiting other guests, I can look at the InLinkz dashboard and see how many guests got clicks, rarely any, only the ones I visit and maybe a few more, that’s it. I’m not against making money with your site either but there’s a proper way to do it. I was on a site just now that had so many popups that it was starting to make me dizzy, honestly! Blogging as a hobby is great and I think if someone can’t afford to blog then don’t blog!! I don’t watch ads on TV, not going to continually X out of them on messy, annoying sites either. Right, our searches are not what shows up on those ads.
I really appreciate these thoughts. Like you, the blogs covered with ads where I have a hard time seeing what I’m even reading annoy me a lot. In some cases, I just don’t even read. I quit and I head elsewhere. I do think that blogs have a nice opportunity for friendly connection that has, in some cases, been taken over by monetization. It’s really too bad.
Aside from the annoyance of the ads, I have never been interested in monetizing my blog because, as you pointed out, I can’t actually choose what gets advertised on my blog, and I’m not ok with that. If there is something inappropriate, there wouldn’t be anything I could do. I like my blog to be mine and be totally controlled by me.
I hosted a linkup years ago, and I also read every blog post and commented. It was a very small linkup and we had a handful of really lovely bloggers who were just trying to get seen. One of the requirements for posting was to visit and comment on 3 other blog posts since that helps us get seen and promotes interaction. It was a really nice linkup that I enjoyed.
Since I stopped hosting my own, I tried to make an effort to read/comment/Pin 3 other posts, hoping that others tend to do the same. I stopped blogging and participating in linkups while I went to graduate school, and since then I have periods when I have time to read other blog posts and other times when I don’t. I always like to thank the host for hosting (although not all hosts enable comments), and I sometimes Tweet or Pin the host party. I have a big work project right now so I haven’t read a lot of other posts lately, but that should change in January.
Anyway, I can appreciate both your frustration and your thoughts. I do believe that blogging can be a connection, like a “real” party, but only with certain bloggers who are on the same page. I have really enjoyed getting to know several bloggers over the years. It’s such a neat forum. Your link ups are always enjoyable, and I so appreciate your comments and Pins. You are a fantastic host!
Thanks, Jennifer. I leave those messy, annoying sites too. Seems most bloggers now days don’t care about friendly connections, that’s a thing of the past. You must have misread because you can control what ads get displayed and where they are displayed but it depends on what affiliate network you’re using. Visiting other guests is what the party should be about, otherwise why host it? And thanking the host is just common courtesy. Thanks for the compliment, I appreciate it!
Oh, that’s good to know. I think because I don’t even entertain monetization, my brain must have skipped right over that. ha ha
Maybe so, Jennifer 🙂
I totally understand your thoughts. I try to thank the hostess at link parties as much as I can, but I admit sometimes I don’t have the time. But as a rule I try to as much as I can to your point- simply for common curtesy. Also I scan the thumbnails and visit the ones that interest me and comment genuinely On that note, thank you for all the link parties you host. XO- MaryJo
Yes, MaryJo, it’s just plain common courtesy…in my opinion at least. And, you’re very welcome.
I’m primarily a craft blogger although I do have a dog blog and one on education I don’t post much on anymore.
I have no guilt about using ads people don’t have to read ad blogs if they choose not to read them. I’ve read blogs and websites with and without them and found info there helpful and not.
As for commenting sometimes there isn’t much to say other than thank you which I try to do because it is polite but it doesn’t feel like its all that genuine and interesting to the host, but I have no idea what else to say. It’s not as if there is much to comment on from the party.
I generally make an effort to visit at least one other person who has posted at a party I’ve posted my links on. If the topics are of interest I will visit all that I find of interest. I put this on the bloggers. I write about crafts, primarily doll clothes that I donate yearly. This is not necessarily a topic people flock to like the latest gossip rag. Sometimes I get a huge influx of people visiting other weeks are flat. Clearly not everyone cared for that weeks batch of clothes I posted. I’m not crushed. It is a niche blog and it is not something everyone wants to read.
The same goes for me visiting the links at parties. There are weeks I’ve visited lots of links because the topics were interesting and engaging. Other parties I’ve struggled to find that one minimum I set for myself because none of the topics are of interest to me. The bloggers wrote about what interested them and that is great. It doesn’t mean it attracts a general audience and that can be frustrating for people who think if they post it to a link party people will be forced to read it because its part of a contract.
I’m not insulted when I post and people aren’t coming in droves to read it. If I wanted more traffic I’d have to pick a topic that appealed to more people but then I wouldn’t enjoy writing it and it wouldn’t serve my purpose of keeping a journal of what I make so I can come back and make it again for another donation.
If I truly want more traffic to my doll blog I’d need to put more effort into marketing my blog to people who are interested in dressing dolls and I don’t have the time or energy to go there but I do enjoy meeting other bloggers at the parties. I have read about topics I might not have read and as my interests have changed over the years I’ve found myself visiting bloggers I might not have visited in the past.
However, I am not going to spend time reading blogs that are not of interest to me because they chose to visit the same party I did. From my readership numbers I suspect there are plenty of party goers not visiting my doll pages because dolls aren’t there thing, they don’t like ads, my pages are ugly I’m sure there are endless reasons. I’m not crushed. I do appreciate the people who do come. I love the people who come and comment and talk about how the free patterns I’ve located helped them. I’ve even found a couple of donors over the years who I’ve connected with through blogging.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I understand that you don’t have time for marketing but many times I’ve wanted to save your posts to Pinterest or share onto other social media. I wish you had share buttons installed.
Speaking as a host of a linky (Anything Goes) I would love to be able to visit and comment on every post that linked up. Some weeks I barely have time to write a blog let alone do all of that. But there was a time when I did. If it meant sitting up half the night, I would make the time to do it because it felt like the right thing to do. It wasn’t feasible long term and at the time, a couple of years ago, I asked my regular linkers if they would prefer me to stop hosting the link up or to host but I would no longer be commenting. The second option was the most popular so here I am haha.
I know what you mean about making an effort though. I am happy to share people’s posts as I state and you know how many people tagged for a share in the last month? None. Do you know how many people followed the basic rules and commented on the host post? About four. But I figure like with any link up, the genuine people find each other and they are the ones that do follow the rules and do comment and build a community, and they are the ones who will benefit.
Debbie, thanks for sharing your thoughts. There is just a loss of community now days, it’s gone! So, I don’t comment on all entries nor do I share them all. Those that take the time to tell me their entry numbers, I gladly comment on and help promote their entries by sharing on social media.
Whenever I hit a link party I try to read just about every other post in it but will admit that I’m not always the best at commenting. There are a lot of posts that I just might not be interested in or don’t have anything to say about so I don’t see the point in making a comment that is obviously only being made to follow a rule. Maybe its just me but I’m much happier with more people taking the time to read my words and give me a chance than a bunch of comments from people that may have just skimmed over what I had to say #anythinggoes
Jeremy, thanks for sharing your thoughts. There are lots of entries that don’t interest me but I do try to visit as many as I linkup and I always try to follow the host’s rules. As a host myself though, I can tell you that most who linkup just drop a link and run.
I’m a guest and I’m a host, and one of my pet peeves is people who link up something that’s NOT related to the theme of the link-up. A long time ago I hosted a linkup that was for art projects, particularly homeschool art projects, and for awhile there was someone who linked up a post about making food for toddlers or photos of a playdate or something. It was cute, but they hadn’t bothered reading the guidelines. When I’m the hostess, I visit and comment on all posts, but also I delete posts that don’t follow the rules. As a guest, I hate it when I visit posts that don’t follow the linkup guidelines and I will not comment or promote. I do my best to always comment for the hostess, visit at least three other posts and comment, and identify which link party I’m visiting from. Some parties are just so big there’s no way to visit everyone!
Kym, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yes, they do that because all they care about is dropping their links and running. That’s it. I’ll drop by and check out your parties.
Well, Dee, by the number of comments, I think you struck a nerve. I agree with much of what you said. I know some bloggers are stay-at-home moms trying to earn some extra income so I understand the willingness to have ads. But I have never done it for a couple of reasons. As you mentioned, you cannot control the content of the ads and because I don’t want to detract from what I’m passionate about which is sharing God’s Word with others.
I ran a link party for a while but because I did try to visit many of linked posts, it was very time-consuming.
When I linkup, I try to visit as many posts as I linked. Most of the time I thank the host for hosting and, as often as I can, leave a longer comment. But occasionally I just run out of time.
Thanks for sharing about something that affects most of us one way or the other.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Donna. It is time consuming and community and friendships are waning. As for the ads, I’d love to see their earning statements and I’d love to interview them and just see if their messy looking sites are worth it.
Straight to the point and you said it. Bloggers don’t care about friendship and community.
Thanks, Sarah. I agree, that was a big thing a few years back but it’s not about that any longer.
Dee, these are such great thoughts and questions for guests and hostess alike.
Thank you for sharing this with Sweet Tea & Friends this month.
Paula, you’re welcome.
You’ve shared some important points here. As you know, I’m a link party host, having hosted Hearth and Soul for over 11 years now. I’ve also shared links at other people’s parties as well. I’ve been blogging for 20 years.
I agree, it is important to leave a comment when you share a link – and it is super helpful when someone leaves their link numbers as well.
I understand why other bloggers have ads, as it costs a lot to run a blog. The reason I don’t have pop up ads is that I’m worried about just what you mentioned – ads I can’t control or even see popping up on my readers’ screens. I would be mortified if something questionable popped up.
I am blessed that I don’t have to worry about my bottom line as much as some others though, so I understand when others do run ads. (Just to give an idea, my blog designed as it is costs over £8,000 a year to run, just for hosting, support, social media sharing tools, Akismet etc. That doesn’t include my time.) I just try to ignore the ads. It helps that I used Safari as my browser – it blocks most pop ups 🙂
As a link party host, it is hard to comment on all the links, even now I’m running H&S monthly. I do try visit as many as I can, and share as many as I can too. It makes it a lot easier if people have their social media links clearly visible on their blog and they link to their actual accounts so I can tag them and they know they have been shared. I can’t tell you how many times I have clicked on a social media button that simply goes to the home page of Twitter or takes me to my own Facebook page which is super frustrating. If they have their social media accounts readily visible I can follow them as well as sharing 🙂
I’m grateful for the strong blogging friendships I have forged over the years, and for the collaborations I have had the privilege of participating in. I’m also grateful for you – and for your support of Hearth and Soul. Thank you for sharing this post!
You’re welcome, April. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Ads are ok but there’s a way to do them properly. I can almost guarantee that most blogs with the horrible ads are not making a lot of money but this post wasn’t really about ads, it was about rude hosts and the waning of community and friendship in the world of blogging.
Dee, excellent post! I’ve never hosted a link party, but I can easily imagine your frustrations. I wouldn’t dream of linking and running without greeting and thanking my host, but I know that happens all the time. You are one of THE best hosts in the entire blogosphere! And when I join one of your parties I always try to “mingle” with other guests and leave comments for at least a couple of them. If I’m too busy or not feeling well enough to participate in this way, then I don’t come to the party.
Jean, thank you for sharing your thoughts. And, you are one of THE BEST bloggers who links up at my parties!
I participate in several linkups each week and try to comment on a neighboring post and often the hostess’s blog too. I understand your frustration about many of these things; I have formed many good friendships through blog linkups but it does seem like fewer people are in it for that these days. Thanks for sharing your thoughts … it seems as if you have struck a chord with many readers.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Lois. It seems to no longer be about friendships and community.
Thank you for sharing this post in the Talent-Sharing Tuesdays Link-Up 51.
You’re welcome, Carol.
By approaching link parties with kindness and a spirit of community, I believe that we can all make the most of these opportunities to connect and grow together.
It’s important to approach link parties with kindness and consideration for others. Take the time to read the other posts and leave thoughtful comments. Saying thank you for the opportunity to share your work goes a long way in building relationships with others in the online community.
In addition, incorporating (christian) values and norms such as honesty, compassion, and generosity can make your participation in link parties even more meaningful. Unfortunately, in today’s fast-paced world, it can be easy to quickly scan and move on without truly engaging with the content and the people behind it.
I think it is nice to take read 5 posts a day and leave a thoughtful comment, because I know how much it means to receive kind words and support. The other day you can read another 5 etc.
Thanks for this post.
Aritha, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think some bloggers do appreciate comments while others do not. Most don’t ever reply to comments I leave for them.
Thanks for writing this Dee and for hosting your link parties; it’s a true labour of love and much appreciated! Regarding ads, I used to be of the same frame of mind and never thought I’d have them on our blog, but when both our mom and M.I.L passed away, we decided to monetize so we could donate our earnings to the Alzheimer’s society. We figured if people were visiting, we might as well be earning so the money can do some good.
Sara, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Ads are ok if you are choosy about what type they are but if they overlap, constantly pop up, and are annoying then in my opinion the blogger doesn’t really care if you read their posts or not. Plus, it makes their site look horribly messy. If I have to spend two minutes closing out ads then I’ll just leave the site. No one has time for that kind of nonsense.